How to Know if Someone is Dismissive Avoidant or Secure

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Are you dating someone secure—or dismissive avoidant?

In the early stages of dating, dismissive avoidants can appear secure, making it tricky to recognize attachment patterns until real feelings are involved. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio break down key differences between secure and dismissive avoidant partners, including early red and green flags to look for in relationships.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ How dismissive avoidants can mimic secure traits early in dating

✔️ The biggest communication differences between secure and DA partners

✔️ Why dismissive avoidants avoid deep emotional conversations

✔️ How to tell if someone is genuinely interested in a long-term relationship

✔️ Signs that someone may struggle with emotional vulnerability and connection

If you’ve ever wondered, “Are they actually secure, or will they pull away later?”, this episode will help you spot the differences and date with clarity.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

02:22 - 1 — DA’s Speak More Logically

09:45 - 2 — Secure People Are Comfortable Saying What They're Looking For

16:22 - 3 — Secure People Are Comfortable Talking About the Relationship

25:26 - 4 — Secure People Will Want to Resolve Conflict in a Timely Fashion

26:25 - 14-Day Free Trial

26:53 - Secure People Will Want to Resolve Conflict in a Timely Fashion (Cont’d)

31:52 - 5 — Secure's Can Laugh at Themselves

34:39 - Rocket Money

35:58 - 6 — DA’s May Have High Self-Consideration

38:44 - 7 — DA's and Secure's Handle Adversities Differently

41:56 - 8 — A Secure Person Will Introduce You to Family and Friends

49:33 - 9 — Secure People Will Express Unmet Needs

52:15 - Conclusion

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