The Thais Gibson Podcast

When To Leave An Avoidant...

Start the New Year with a Fresh Start! Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-13-25&el=podcastAre you questioning whether to continue investing in a relationship with an avoidant partner? Learn the three essential steps to evaluate your situation and make the best decision for your happiness and growth.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson outlines a step-by-step approach to help you decide whether to stay with or leave an avoidant partner. By setting clear boundaries, focusing on personal growth, and assessing the other person’s willingness to grow, you’ll gain clarity and confidence in your decision. Listen now to discover actionable tools for navigating challenging dynamics and fostering healthier relationships.Timestamps00:00:00 – Should You Stay or Leave?00:00:47 – Signs of Losing Yourself in the Relationship00:01:12 – The Three-Step Process for Decision-Making00:02:45 – Key Question: Are They Willing to Do the Work?00:05:08 – Setting Deadlines for Relationship Investment00:07:30 – The Importance of Personal Growth During Evaluation00:09:20 – Recognizing When the Needle Isn’t Moving00:11:45 – Clarity and Confidence in Your Decision00:13:50 – Evaluating Healthy Relationship Reciprocity00:15:00 – Tools to Heal and Rebuild Self-Worth00:17:45 – Final Thoughts: Leading by ExampleFollow Us for Daily Relationship Insights and Breakthroughs on Our Social Channels!YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/---#AttachmentStyles #DismissiveAvoidant #RelationshipDynamics #SecureAttachment #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Easily Spot A Secure Partner

Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses on relationship with avoidants, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-01-10-25&el=podcastAre you struggling to identify healthy relationship dynamics? Discover the five key traits of a securely attached partner and learn how to spot and nurture these qualities in your relationships.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson shares how to recognize the key traits of a securely attached partner, including emotional regulation, vulnerability, and the balance between independence and intimacy. Learn practical tools for identifying secure communication styles and fostering interdependence in your relationships. Listen now to discover actionable steps for spotting secure partners and becoming one yourself.Timestamps00:00:00 – Introduction: Struggling to Find the Right Partner?00:00:47 – Why Insecure Attachment Styles Are Common00:01:12 – Positive Framing in Communication00:02:45 – Working Through Challenges and Vulnerability00:03:50 – The Power of Empathy and Emotional Validation00:05:15 – Setting Boundaries While Validating Emotions00:06:45 – Balancing Independence and Intimacy: Interdependence00:08:14 – Avoiding Codependency and Counterdependency00:10:22 – Self-Soothing vs. Co-Regulating with a Partner00:12:07 – The Role of Needs in Conflict Resolution00:14:00 – Final Thoughts: Becoming and Recognizing a Secure PartnerFollow Us for Daily Relationship Insights and Breakthroughs on Our Social Channels!YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/---#AttachmentStyles #DismissiveAvoidant #RelationshipDynamics #SecureAttachment #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

FEARFUL AVOIDANT: 11 Signs Your Attachment Trauma is Rooted in PARENTIFICATION

Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses on relationship with avoidants, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-09-25&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, Thais Gibson explores the profound effects of parentification on attachment styles and adult relationships. Learn how being forced into a caregiver role as a child impacts your ability to set boundaries, trust others, and receive love as an adult. Listen now to discover practical tools for healing these patterns and reclaiming emotional freedom in your relationships.Do you feel burdened by always being the caregiver in your relationships? Discover how parentification affects your emotional health and learn to break free from these patterns to create balanced, fulfilling connections.Timestamps:00:00:00 - Introduction to parentification and its impacts00:01:30 - The two types of parentification: emotional and instrumental00:04:50 - How parentification shapes adult attachment styles00:08:10 - Signs of parentification in childhood00:11:45 - Why parentification leads to over-giving and burnout00:15:30 - Emotional patterns formed from unmet childhood needs00:20:20 - The struggle to trust and accept love as an adult00:24:00 - Common symptoms of being a parentified child00:28:15 - Key steps to reprogram beliefs rooted in parentification00:33:40 - Building balance between care for self and others00:38:20 - Practical tools to heal and thrive in relationships00:44:00 - Final insights and next steps for healingGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fearful Avoidants Need THESE 3 Things to Connect After Conflict

Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-02-25&el=podcastStruggling to reconnect with a fearful avoidant partner after a fight? Learn the three game-changing steps to rebuild trust, resolve conflict, and bring you closer than ever before.In this episode, Thais Gibson outlines the three essential steps fearful avoidants need to reconnect after conflict. Discover why validating feelings, offering transparency, and creating preventative strategies are key to rebuilding trust and deepening your bond. Watch now to learn how to transform conflict into a powerful opportunity for connection and lasting harmony.00:00:00 - Introduction: 3 Steps Fearful Avoidants Need After Conflict00:00:25 - Step 1: Why Validating Feelings is Critical00:01:08 - How Validation Helps Fearful Avoidants Let Their Guard Down00:02:00 - The Difference Between Validating Feelings vs. Behaviors00:02:21 - Step 2: The Importance of Transparency and Context00:03:42 - Why Understanding ‘Why’ Behind Behavior Builds Trust00:04:00 - How Fearful Avoidants Use Hyper-Vigilance to Feel Safe00:05:01 - Step 3: Strategies to Prevent Recurring Issues00:05:50 - Why Preventative Strategies Create Reassurance00:06:32 - Taking Action to Improve the Relationship00:07:03 - How Conflict Can Bring You Closer, Not Drive You Apart00:07:20 - Final Tips for Building Trust and ConnectionLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THESE Are the Top Triggers for An Anxious Partner (& How to Solve Them)

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-30-24&el=podcastIn this episode, co-hosts Mike and Thais Gibson dive deep into the world of relationship triggers, focusing on how they manifest for those with an anxious attachment style. Drawing from personal experiences as former fearful and dismissive avoidants, they share actionable insights on understanding and managing triggers like feeling excluded, hot-and-cold behavior, and unmet needs for soothing.Learn how core wounds shape our reactions, the importance of communication in fostering secure relationships, and why understanding your partner’s attachment style is key to creating a supportive connection. Whether you’re navigating these dynamics yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode offers practical advice for growth and healing. Plus, stay tuned for resources on rewiring attachment patterns to foster healthier connections.Timestamps;00:00 - Intro01:46 - Forgetting Important Events07:42 - Projecting Love Languages10:10 - When a Partner Has an Active Social Life Apart From Them18:24 - Hot and Cold Behavior26:55 - Communicating with Openness and Vulnerability33:03 - Not Being Soothed By Your Partner When You Need Them38:04 - If Someone Asks for Too Much47:37 - ConclusionJoin us for an engaging conversation filled with relatable stories, expert insights, and tools to help you thrive in your relationshipsGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

An Avoidant Needs THIS To Resolve Conflict and Reconnect Immediately!

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-26-24&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, we explore the unique needs of dismissive avoidants during and after conflict, revealing key strategies to foster reconnection and harmony.Discover how to transform conflicts from divisive moments into opportunities for deeper understanding and closeness, using tools like direct communication, positive reinforcement, and acts of service.Learn the art of "re-bonding" to restore trust and safety after disputes, and uncover why harmonious communication is essential for avoidants to open up.Whether you’re navigating these dynamics yourself or in a relationship with an avoidant, this episode offers practical advice to create stronger, more secure connections.Timestamps:00:00:00 – Why Avoidants Shut Down During Conflict00:00:18 – Key Needs of Avoidants After a Conflict00:01:12 – The Role of Harmonious Communication00:02:45 – Positive vs. Negative Conflict Dynamics00:05:08 – Direct and Literal Communication Needs00:06:00 – Rebonding: Acknowledgment and Appreciation00:07:30 – Using Positive Reinforcement in Relationships00:08:50 – Building Connection Through Lighthearted Activities00:10:22 – Acts of Service as a Sign of Peace00:11:45 – Validation and Encouraging Effort00:13:50 – Healthy Communication Tools for Conflict Resolution00:15:00 – Final Thoughts: Creating Deeper ConnectionsLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THESE Are the Top Avoidant Triggers That Make Them Run Away

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-23-24&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike DiZio explore the inner world of dismissive avoidants, uncovering the core wounds and triggers that cause them to retreat in relationships. From the need for personal space and independence to fears of vulnerability and conflict, the duo breaks down common challenges dismissive avoidants face and provides actionable advice for fostering healthier connections.Through personal experiences and professional insights, this episode sheds light on how dismissive avoidants perceive intimacy, handle communication, and navigate criticism. Whether you’re a dismissive avoidant yourself or looking to better understand a loved one, this episode offers invaluable tools for empathy, understanding, and building secure, lasting relationships.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro02:17 - Things That Cause Dismissive Avoidants to Run04:33 - When Your Need For Space Was Disrespected13:29 - Excessive Need for Communication / Clinginess16:57 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass32:49 - Setting Boundaries and Self-Regulation22:08 - Assumptions on How They're Feeling30:00 - Feeling Controlled By a Partner41:15 - Too Much Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Closeness51:37 - Conflict and Criticism1:03:54 - ConclusionGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THESE 4 Triggers Cause Fearful Avoidants to Run from Relationships

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-19-24&el=podcastIt’s time to transform your career, life & future with our Live Relationship Coaching Program!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-19-24&el=podcastWhy do fearful avoidants sometimes pull away from relationships when things seem to be going well?In this episode, we uncover the four core triggers that cause fearful avoidants to run and explore the psychology behind their reactions. Whether you're navigating these dynamics yourself or supporting a loved one, you'll learn actionable strategies to address these challenges, communicate effectively, and create healthier connections.Join us to understand how to rewire painful patterns, balance emotional safety with vulnerability, and transform relationships through mindful tools rooted in neuroplasticity. Listen, reflect, and take a step closer to secure attachment and fulfilling connections.Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Things That Cause A Fearful Avoidant to Suddenly LEAVE A Relationship

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-16-24&el=podcastAre you struggling to understand why a fearful avoidant partner may suddenly leave? Discover the key triggers and learn how to communicate effectively to build a stronger, lasting bond.In today’s video, Thais Gibson dives into the complexities of the fearful avoidant attachment style and explores the five triggers that cause them to leave relationships abruptly. She explains the internal struggles these individuals face, such as miscommunication, fear of abandonment, and difficulty setting boundaries, while offering actionable strategies for healing. Watch now to gain invaluable insights into the mind of a fearful avoidant and learn how to foster healthier, more secure relationships.Timestamps00:00 - Intro02:18 - 1. Abandonment: activating and deactivating15:43 - Hurting and Offending Others18:09 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass19:00 - 2. Being criticized23:25 - Making Amends29:32 - 3. Feeling Incapable, Dumb, or Foolish32:49 - You Must Communicate Your Needs to Receive Them42:34 - 4. If They Feel Like They’re Being Attacked47:15 - 5. Being Taken Advantage of57:28 - ConclusionThis episode is packed with tools to empower you in rebuilding your sense of self and creating a healthier approach to love and connection. Don’t miss the free trial mentioned in the episode for additional resources to support your healing journey!Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast--- Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Relationship History of the Dismissive Avoidant...

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-10-24&el=youtubeIt’s time to transform your career, life & future with our Live Relationship Coaching Program!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-10-24&el=podcastHave you ever wondered why dismissive avoidants often struggle with long-term commitment? Learn about their relationship history, common challenges, and how to foster deeper, more meaningful connections.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson delves into the relationship history of the dismissive avoidant attachment style, highlighting patterns shaped by childhood experiences and emotional neglect. Learn why dismissive avoidants struggle with vulnerability and long-term commitment and discover actionable steps to bridge these gaps for healthier connections. Listen now to uncover insights into attachment theory, emotional healing, and building fulfilling relationships.Timestamps00:00:00 – Exploring Relationship Patterns00:01:10 – How Childhood Shapes Relationship Expectations00:02:03 – Emotional Neglect and Repression of Feelings00:03:37 – Understanding Emotions as Feedback00:05:10 – Impact of Independence vs. Interdependence00:07:17 – Misconceptions About Compromise in Relationships00:09:03 – Patterns of Short-Term Relationships00:10:27 – The Six Stages of Relationship Development00:12:15 – The 6-Month and 2-Year Breakup Patterns00:14:30 – Importance of Vulnerability and Communication00:16:30 – Vetting Partners and Personal GrowthLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices