The Thais Gibson Podcast

THESE 5 Things Cause Fearful Avoidants to RUN

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-07-24&el=podcastIn this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais Gibson and cohost, Mike DiZio, dive deep into the world of fearful avoidant attachment styles. Together, they explore the triggers that often arise in relationships for those with this attachment style, such as trust violations, unmet expectations, and feelings of emotional overwhelm. Thais, a former fearful avoidant turned secure, shares invaluable insights from her personal journey and professional expertise.Listeners will gain a better understanding of:
The internal world of a fearful avoidant.
Why small incongruities can feel like major trust breaches.
How childhood experiences shape hypervigilance and relational patterns.
Practical strategies to foster trust and communication in relationships.
Whether you're navigating these challenges yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable tips to create healthier, more secure connections.Tune in for a candid conversation filled with relatable stories, expert advice, and the tools to transform attachment patterns.Timestamps00:00 - Intro01:58 - FA Triggers: When Trust is Broken03:57 - Developing Hypervigilance as a Coping Mechanism11:20 - Sharing Phone Access with Your Partner22:00 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass24:28 - FA Triggers: People Having Expectations for Them28:41 - Finding Comfort in Chaos34:52 - Feeling Seen and Less Alone39:44 - FAs and Rights of Passage Fears43:26 - Reassuring the FA When They're Feeling Afraid47:26 - FA Triggers: Feeling Unimportant or Like They Don't Matter52:35 - Conclusion Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do THIS If You’re Anxiously Attached & Want to Get Over Someone FAST

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THIS Is Why You Feel Needy In Relationships and How to Stop IMMEDIATELY!

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-05-24&el=podcastDo you find yourself seeking constant reassurance in relationships? Discover how to break free from the cycle of neediness and cultivate emotional independence in today’s transformative video.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson explores the underlying reasons for neediness in relationships and how to overcome it with practical strategies. Learn the difference between codependency, hyper-independence, and interdependence while discovering actionable steps to build emotional security. Listen now to master effective communication, meet your own needs, and create healthier, lasting relationships.Timestamps00:00:00 – Why Do You Feel Needy in Relationships?00:00:09 – The Cycle of Needing Constant Reassurance00:00:35 – Understanding Root Causes of Neediness00:01:05 – How Fear of Abandonment Shapes Relationships00:03:00 – Secure People vs. Anxious Attachment Styles00:04:40 – The Empty Gas Tank Analogy00:07:00 – Interdependence: The Balance Between Needs and Self-Sufficiency00:10:15 – Meeting Your Own Needs vs. Codependency00:13:30 – The Importance of Clear Communication00:15:25 – How Subconscious Conditioning Affects Relationships00:18:10 – Positive Framing in Communication00:21:05 – Summary and Next Steps for Emotional IndependenceLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is Why Avoidants Prefer Casual Relationships Over Committed Ones!

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-03-24&el=podcastAre you confused about why your partner keeps avoiding commitment? Learn the hidden fears driving dismissive avoidants and what you can do to create clarity and deeper connection in your relationships.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson delves into the psychology behind why dismissive avoidants prefer casual relationships over-committed ones. Learn how fears of vulnerability, emotional neglect, and subconscious conditioning contribute to their behavior, and discover actionable steps to navigate these dynamics effectively. Listen now to uncover how communication and self-awareness can transform your approach to relationships.Timestamps00:00:00 – Why Avoidants Prefer Casual Relationships00:00:33 – The Frustration of Feeling Stuck in Limbo00:01:01 – The Three Core Reasons Avoidants Avoid Commitment00:01:22 – Understanding the Dismissive Avoidant’s Fear of Vulnerability00:02:05 – Emotional Neglect and its Long-Term Impact on Attachment00:03:37 – How the Subconscious Mind Drives Avoidant Behaviors00:05:12 – Misconceptions About People-Pleasing in Relationships00:06:16 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Fear Feeling Trapped00:08:44 – The Role of Self-Sabotage in Avoidant Dynamics00:10:01 – Avoidants’ Search for Perfection to Avoid Conflict00:13:15 – How to Break the Cycle: Communication and Inner Work00:15:25 – Final Thoughts: Finding Closure and CertaintyLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is How A Fearful Avoidant Feels After A Break Up!

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-01-24&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio explore the inner world of the fearful avoidant attachment style during and after a breakup. Whether you're a fearful avoidant or someone trying to understand a partner with this attachment style, this episode sheds light on the complexities of their behavior and provides actionable strategies for healing and rebuilding trust in relationships.Timestamps00:00 - Intro02:13 - How Fearful Avoidants Process a Break Up08:02 - Reconnecting with an Ex10:40 - Expressing Needs and Vulnerability14:58 - Relief After a Break Up19:33 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass20:23 - After Breaking Up with an FA23:17 - On-Again, Off-Again Relationships28:02 - Love Languages and Expressing Needs37:36 - Mike and Thais’ Shares on Love Language Needs37:36 - Translate Expectations to Needs47:01 - When to Reconnect with an FA Ex51:00 - How Long Does the Reconnection Last?52:43 - How They Seem VS How They Feel54:53 - ConclusionLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is Why Avoidants Seem Fine After A Break Up

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-01-24&el=podcastIn this episode, we dive deep into the dismissive avoidant attachment style and uncover why they often seem cold and unaffected after a breakup. Hosts Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio share personal insights, real-life examples, and professional expertise on attachment styles, discussing the intricate dynamics behind dismissive avoidance post-breakup behavior. Learn about the emotional boomerang effect, the role of subconscious conditioning, and how different attachment styles cope with breakups.They also explore key strategies for healing, whether you’re navigating a breakup or working toward secure attachment. If you’ve ever felt confused or hurt by a dismissive avoidant partner’s behavior—or wondered how to move on effectively—this episode provides both clarity and actionable tools.Listen now for a compassionate, insightful conversation that sheds light on attachment styles, personal growth, and the path to fulfilling relationships.Timestamps00:00 - Intro01:35 - Going through a Break Up (Mike)04:33 - The Break Up Boomerang Effect20:48 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass21:39 - How DAs Feel After a Break Up Over Time38:05 - Opening Up and Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone41:24 - Making Deeper Connections45:24 - Why DAs Don't Appear to Struggle After a Break Up51:28 - If You're on the Receiving End55:28 - Conclusion Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do THESE Things to Heal Anxiety in Relationships!

Discover the keys to overcoming pain, apply post-traumatic growth principles, and reprogram your subconscious with the "How to Heal From a Breakup" course. Free Black Friday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-25-24&el=podcastIn this episode, hosts Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio explore the journey of healing an anxious attachment style.They break down six crucial pillars of transformation, including self-soothing, meeting your own needs, regulating the nervous system, and fostering healthy communication and boundaries.Packed with tangible tools and relatable analogies, this deep dive empowers listeners to move from anxiety to secure attachment.Whether you’re navigating relationships, self-growth, or emotional balance, this episode offers actionable strategies to rewrite your subconscious patterns and embrace meaningful connections.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro01:59 - 6 Pillars to Become Secure04:21 - Healing Anxious Attachment: Spend Time With Yourself13:33 - Self-Soothing Techniques (Mike)19:39 - Self-Soothing Techniques (Thais)25:54 - Putting Others on Pedestals30:22 - AquaTru32:37 - 6 Human Needs41:59 - Opening Up About Needs & Imbalances43:10 - Reactive Communication49:13 - When You Have an Unmet Need57:58 - Conclusion Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and use code 'THAIS' at checkout.Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

These Things Reveal if an Avoidant is Healing

Discover the keys to overcoming pain, apply post-traumatic growth principles, and reprogram your subconscious with the "How to Heal From a Breakup" course. Free Black Friday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-11-23-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-11-23-24&el=podcastIn this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and her co-host, Mike Di Zio dive into the healing journey of avoidant attachment styles, focusing on how to recognize if a dismissive or fearful avoidant is making progress in their emotional growth.Join Thais and Mike as they break down the key signs of healing, such as the avoidant's gradual reconnection with their emotions and body. They discuss practical tools and strategies for avoidants, like journaling, meditation, and mindfulness practices, to help them process suppressed feelings and reduce their instinct to avoid vulnerability. The episode also explores the common misconception that avoidants are emotionless, revealing how they often numb themselves rather than confront their inner experiences.The hosts share personal stories and provide real-life examples, including a powerful analogy comparing emotions to a "check engine light," signaling unmet needs. They offer insights on how avoidants can begin to recognize these signals and respond with self-care rather than avoidance. The conversation highlights the importance of routines, physical activity, and reducing technology use to help avoidants stay grounded and connected with their emotions.Listeners will gain actionable advice on how to support a partner with avoidant tendencies, including how to create a safe space for open communication and ways to encourage vulnerability without pressure. This episode is essential for anyone looking to better understand avoidant attachment patterns and support loved ones on their path to healing.Timestamps:00:00:00 – Introduction: Healing Dismissive Avoidant Attachment00:01:00 – Why Discomfort Leads to Growth00:02:15 – Core Wounds and Rewiring Negative Beliefs00:04:00 – Meditation and Emotional Awareness00:06:00 – Emotional Feedback and Recognizing Needs00:08:30 – Self-Soothing vs. Self-Numbing Explained00:11:00 – Setting Boundaries: Survival vs. Nuanced Approaches00:13:15 – The Six Pillars of Secure Attachment00:15:30 – How to Rewire Negative Patterns Through Practice00:18:00 – Communicating Needs Effectively in Relationships00:20:15 – Building Emotional Resilience and Vulnerability00:23:00 – Key Triggers for Dismissive Avoidants in Relationships00:26:00 – Importance of Emotional Safety and Trust00:29:30 – Understanding Loneliness and Quality Connections00:33:00 – Rewiring Beliefs About Independence and Dependence00:36:30 – Responding to Feedback Without Defensive Behaviors00:40:00 – Shifting from Avoidant to Secure Attachment Dynamics00:45:00 – Developing Deeper Emotional Awareness Over Time00:50:00 – Practical Tools for Breaking Avoidant Patterns00:55:00 – Final Steps for Healing and Building Secure RelationshipsGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS IS Why You Keep Attracting Avoidant People

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THIS Is How a Secure Person Reacts to an Avoidant Having a Phantom Ex

Free Black Friday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-19-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-19-24&el=podcast"THIS Is How a Secure Person Responds to Someone Having a Phantom Ex!" is your guide to navigating the tricky dynamics of dating someone who can't seem to let go of their past.Hosted by Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, this episode dives deep into the strategies securely attached individuals use to address challenges when their partner frequently brings up an ex.Learn how to openly communicate, address unmet needs, and set healthy boundaries while staying true to your values. Discover tools to foster emotional availability, improve relationships, and maintain self-respect.Whether you're building a connection or navigating complex dynamics, this podcast equips you with insights for a healthier, more secure approach to relationships.Subscribe, rate, and share to transform your subconscious patterns and empower your personal growth journey!Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices